Why you should give therapy a try

Maybe it’s just me, but therapy seems like a very common and accepted thing internationally, but it still seems to hold a certain stigma here in Australia. Looking after your mental health is one of THE MOST important things you can do as a parent, and having conversations around the benefits of therapy is vital in breaking that stigma down.  And no matter what way you deal with stress, anxiety or depression in your life, everyone can use a little extra support in handling life’s challenges — and one way to get it is through talking with a professional.

Therapy involves a lot of trust. It requires an immense amount of vulnerability and honesty. Add to that the fact that you’re doing all that work in front of someone who, a few hours ago, was close to a total stranger. Finding a skilled therapist to build that kind of relationship with can sometimes feel like the most daunting part of the whole process, regardless of whether you’ve been contemplating therapy for years or you’re in a moment of crisis. So we asked a therapist we trust what some of the benefits of therapy are.

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Why Therapy?

by Lindsay Perlman

Growing up with a mother who was a Clinical Psychologist, normalised the idea of going to therapy and talking to someone about my worries. In our house, it felt like seeing a psychologist was as normal as visiting the GP. However, I do remember that as a teenager, I was hesitant to disclose this as it seemed like most of my friends saw going to a psychologist as only for people who had ‘BIG’ problems or were ‘not coping”. However, I have to admit that I secretly enjoyed the time I had with my therapist. She helped me to download and think about various aspects of my life, whether it was navigating complex social situations or dealing with school pressures and homework. I enjoyed this space and felt that I usually left the sessions feeling clearer and more in tune with myself and my values. The other thing I found was although my friends and family were supportive and well meaning, their advice was understandably biased to some degree and also laden with their own ‘stuff’. Reflecting on both my personal journey in therapy as well as my work as a Clinical Psychologist, I see therapy as highly beneficial in helping enhance self-awareness ad growth.

Nowadays, there is more acknowledgement for mental illness. The prevalence of depression and anxiety is higher and there has been more recognition by organisation/initiatives such as RUOK, Beyond Blue, Black dog Institute, Headspace that its okay for people to not be okay and to seek help from psychologists.

Personal growth has become a ‘buzz word’ – many workplaces have introduced lifestyle programs, which focus on mindfulness, stress management, and various exercise programs like yoga and cardio classes. Whilst there are significant benefits associated with these programs, they are often quite general and don’t provide individuals with the opportunity to work on themselves in terms of their specific psychological needs.

Sessions with a psychologist can provide an opportunity for self- improvement and reflection. Having an objective and non-judgemental environment can provide people with an opportunity to download and process their difficulties and challenges. The idea is to help the person develop a more flexible mindset so these beliefs, thoughts, behaviours and can be broadened so to be more workable and balanced. Patients are assisted to identify problematic self-talk, thoughts, beliefs driving problematic behaviours, gradually with increased self-awareness, can provide a space and pause to respond differently with better success.

The patient –therapist relationship is also thought to play an important role in the outcome. I often say to patients the earlier part of the session is to ‘suss out’ the relationship fit. Sometimes, finding a therapist who you feel comfortable with takes time and it is perfectly acceptable to try out a few until you are satisfied.

An important point to bear in mind is that therapy takes some time– in today’s environment, people often come with the expectation of wanting a ‘quick’ fix. Allowing time for growth and exploration is key and can result in long-lasting positive change and self-awareness.

The benefits of therapy:

  • Offers an objective and non-judgmental environment to explore and understand issues in life
  • Helps identify problematic thoughts, beliefs, self-talk and response patterns.
  • Helps the person develop greater self-awareness so she/he can pause and respond to challenging situations in a more constructive and thoughtful way.
  • Can help clients identify strengths and learn new skills that will allow them to deal with the challenges that arise in life.
  • The time spent in therapy can enhance your quality of life and your relationships.
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Lindsay Perlman

Lindsay Perlman is a Clinical Psychologist based in Sydney. Her work focuses on the assessment and treatment of young adolescents, adolescents and adults with a range of clinical psychological needs, including depression, anxiety, interpersonal difficulties, perinatal and postnatal depression as well as attachment and adjustment issues. A particular passion of Lindsay’s is in the area of mother-baby attachment. She currently facilitates groups on post-natal depression, mother-baby attachment and parenting.