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A running list to keep you up to date, inspired and engaged with the world while you are being a mum.
TODAY is Day 1 of Perinatal Mental Health Week
To the mother who replies “I’m fine”, when she is asked.
But really she is not fine. In fact, she is struggling.
She is hanging by a thread.
She is overwhelmed by her new role.
She is struggling with her identity.
She is desperately seeking that rhythm in her new normal.
She is 1 in every 5 of us.
The sleepless nights.
The piles of washing.
Whether she is breastfeeding, pumping or bottle feeding.
Every essence of her being is focused on this being, her baby.
Yet, she doesn’t know why her life doesn’t look perfect, like the mothers in the magazines, and social media feed.
Why are they happy, and got it together yet she doesn’t?
Is she a failure?
So she buries herself into her struggles, crying, and questioning her worth as a mother.
The stigmas are still attached to perinatal depression and anxiety. Let’s start listening to what is not being said.
I’m on the plant based food bandwagon thanks to the new Netflix doco “Game Changers” and this week I even made my husband eat Tofu. It’s a whole new world but a surprisingly delicious one. This is the first recipe we made and we both loved it. I don’t know how I feel about giving up my morning cappuccino though….
Amy Schumer’s comment on going back to work: “5 months today and like all moms I love him so much it hurts. Im feeling strong and good and like I’m still a human being with interests and ambitions and goals I’m excited to reach. It’s felt good to be back at work. I was so worried about it and was afraid to go back after he was 3 months old. A couple days I’ve cried from missing him. But it’s mostly good to be back and the breaks energise me to be a better mom and appreciate our time even more. I have it a lot easier than many people but I wanted to share my experience.”
I’ve been toying with the idea of introducing eCommerce to MUMOKI for a while now and I’m finally putting the wheels in motion. It’s not ready yet but just between you and me, we are calling it the “MUMOKI MARKET” and it’s going to be full of MUMOKI approved, mum owned, entrepreneurial businesses.
I can’t sell something I don’t believe in. It just goes against who I am. So it might take a few more weeks to get the mix right. But if you know of an Aussie Mum who is clever, and entrepreneurial and has a super cool product you would like to see in the Market, get in touch and let me know. When we rise, we all rise together.
The honest conversation between Alison Rice and Rachelle Rowlings in the OFFLINE podcast is fantastic. Yes they discuss life as an “influencer” (ergh that word makes my skin crawl) but also morality, motherhood and life with an older man.
Keeping Harvey Weinstein’s Secrets – Part 1 and Part 2. The 2 journalists who first broke the Harvey Weinstein story for the NY Times and were at the centre of the Me Too movement have just released a book about the bigger story and in it, uncovered information about two feminist icons — Gloria Allred and her daughter, Lisa Bloom who helped cover up Weinstein’s crimes. The NY Times The Daily Podcast covers it all and it’s so good.
It’s NYFW and Rebecca Minkoff just showed a breastfeeding mother in her presentation (while also going between a baby monitor and a computer monitor, naturally). I suddenly feel underdressed.
This affects new dads more than you might think. Postpartum depression doesn’t only affect women. According to research, new fathers can suffer the same symptoms — and if their partners are suffering from postpartum depression, as many as 25% of new fathers may also experience it! We also wrote about it here.
Fashion brain meet Business brain in Life’s work: An interview with Vera Wang from the Harvard Business Review